Chilled!

Are you chilled in the chill?

Well, since I last blogged winter has hit with a vengeance! Spring seems a long way off!

I've become aware that I've been very tense when driving in the snow. It's good to be wary and drive safely, but I find my shoulders tensing because I'm gripping the wheel - and that's really not helping me drive better!

In the last few years I've become a lot more aware of my reactions and have become much better at dealing with them quicker - is it appropriate or am I snowballing my thoughts - I could end up in an avalanche of thoughts!

I now acknowledge my thoughts and my body's reaction to them and can deal with them before they start to spiral in the wrong direction. It's called the law of attraction, you attract what you focus on.

If like me you're sometimes a bit cynical, you might think that it's not as easy as just thinking positively. But it is. You just have to acknowledge your negativity and say "I choose to feel good today".

You have 17 seconds to change the direction of your thoughts, which is actually quite a long time! So instead of trying to stop your thoughts, acknowledge them, see what they are trying to do,  and choose whether to do something about them. When I say say see what they are trying to do, there is always a reason for them, they are usually trying to keep you safe, protect you or stop you looking like an idiot. The problem is that most of the time they end up achieving what they're trying to prevent.

Start to ask what you really want. Ask others. Never be afraid to ask. I love the saying "If you ask a question you look a fool for five minutes, if you don't ask you look a fool forever". I usually find someone else wants to ask the same question but is too scared! Fear stops us doing so many things!

So, make sure you take notice, breathe, smile and do something different!